I am so sad that my children will struggle to find a healthy church. I know that we are struggling ourselves, and now I think it will be nearly impossible for our kids when they grow up. I also feel so sad for them that my husband and I were not trained in theology and Biblical knowledge growing up. My parents were not Chrsitians, I lived with different family members and then finally settled in with my father and step mom. I went to whatever church I could get to, mostly on my own. My husband’s parents are Christians now, but growing up were functionally not so. He was allowed to stay home from church with his father. He doesn’t have skills at all in teaching, and so really doesn’t teach much to his children. Several times I had hoped he would have a night where he taught bible study time, or maybe he’d find a way to challenge the kids by teaching. Truth is, we’re both doing more for our kids than we got. However, I think this is not enough. I do read to my kids often from the Bible directly, have encouraged them to read it on their own. My oldest has read through the entire Bible I believe twice (he’s 12) from cover to cover. I bribed him 25c a book. My 10 year old has read straight through many books of the Bible, and even my 8 year old got to Leviticus on an attempt to read the Bible straight through. We encourage scripture memory, and take the kids to Awana for now (until something better comes along). We pray before putting the kids to bed as a family, each one says their own prayer. We try to model prayer for them, and we pray at meal time. They know why we left our former church, and the older ones understand it’s doctrine.
With what we do, I still fear we’re missing the mark with our kids. We need to teach more. We also need to figure out who to challenge them to read. What pastors and authors are not just pop Christian feel good types but actually will help keep my kids on the right path with a focus on Christ? I need to study up!