Happy Reformation Day!
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged boldness, Catholic Church, church history, free download, Here I Stand, Martin Luther, pope, Protestant, reformation, Reformation Day, scripture on October 31, 2009| Leave a Comment »
I listened to a sermon by my former pastor and found it to be actually not that bad. I could be happy that maybe he’s changing his ways, but I actually fear the flaw is more with me. I am thinking I must not have it all down, I’m missing the wrong teaching in what he said. Actually, it’s great if his sermon is better. No wonder most of it was probably okay, he read the bible verse by verse and then preached on it…reading a few verses and describing the meanings. I did have a few nit picky things I thought he could have worded differently, and depending on where he goes with it in the future, they could be problems.
He referenced “strangers” and “aliens” as refugees. He kept saying that we (meaning who I’m not sure) are refugees and he prefers that though I couldn’t find the word in the text in the bible versions on bible gateway. I guess I would prefer one from a good translation, but maybe he knows something about the Greek translation?
He did do some illustrations he drew out, got off on a personal story…but this is minor and only bothers me because I don’t trust his teaching not because a preacher cannot share a personal story once in a while.
Fact is, there are true things he has said in sermons in the past, there have been good things. However, when he is off, he is usually really off.
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged abortion, baby, CHRISTIAN, church, ectopic pregnancy, eternity, fetal loss, grief, miscarriage, missed miscarriage, mourning, newborn death, parenting, pregnancy loss, spontaneous abortion, still birth on October 16, 2009| 11 Comments »
I personally believe, as Christians who would mourn with someone who lost a family member, we should also make sure to remember the littlest of people. Mothers and fathers of babies who die in the womb, just before birth, or soon after, are often put through the “just get over it” phase. The earlier in pregnancy the baby dies, or if there are disabilities such as Down’s syndrome or Trisomy 18, there is often a justification for shortening the mourning period.
I believe there is a time to mourn, and also that we do feel a deep sadness for the chidlren we do not get to actually meet because God set eternity in our hearts. Maybe I am making a leap here, and please let me know if this is not a right thought, but I do believe we were not actually meant to be apart in death. Not actually. So, it’s a natural state to mourn our losses.
I personally see grief as a gift. When I had a baby die in the womb at 16 weeks, something discovered at a regular OB appointment, I mourned deeply. I decided I would allow myself to mourn. I spent hours in prayer, and hours letting God hear my anguish. I spent hours reading scriptures. My other children were being taken care of by grandparents and their father. I just had to weep, think, pray, write, and remember. I wanted to go all the way with mourning. After all, God had created the child in me and I actually felt I was dishonoring God to not mourn properly. Now, this was just feelings, not gospel truth. Though now, I am so glad I did mourn fully.
What I did want more than anything though was to bury the remains of my child. I had been pushed into a D&E by my doctor, who was trying to be kind. I am outspoken, but chose not to ask or speak up. I do not know what was holding me back, but I didn’t ask for the remains, didn’t ask to be induced. I later helped get a line written in a law in my state that caused hospitals to be responsible to inform women they can have the remains when being treated for miscarriage or “fetal demise.”
I know there is a time to let the dead be dead and rejoin the living…but I believe the church should be supportive of those families who have experienced the death of a loved one no matter how small. A rose on the piano, a card of sympathy, a prayer from a pastor or maybe a women’s group leader, a book of rememberance in the church , something should be done to honor those who have had babies die in pregnancy or shortly after birth. I do not think this is a mandate, or that a church is less holy for not doing it. I just think it wouldn’t hurt to do a little bit more.
Of course, there are many women who have never spoken of their miscarriages. It’s too painful, or they have chosen to keep the secret to themselves. Others have had abortions and would never speak of it. If a church acknowleges the losses openly in general, this might help the silent mourners too.
I believe, as a prolife woman, thanking my God for the days I was pregnant with the chidlren I miscarried, and mourning the losses, has honored His creation. Again, this is just my opinion and not a revelation from God to me.
If you have had a baby die, I pray for you. I thank God for the time you had with your baby, no matter how brief, and I pray for your comfort.
Pastor Tony Felich of Redeemer Presbyterian has a sound post (though he says it’s incomplete, and when describing God and His work, our words are never complete so he’s right) on the work of the Holy Spirit. http://reepicheep-ajf.blogspot.com/2009/10/power-of-holy-spirit.html
The difference between the Spiritual Formation and sanctification is where you go for it. In Spiritual Formation a person goes inward…and supposedly listens. In sanctification, a person goes into God’s word…and the focus is on God. Though both are a process, one is about the Glory of God and the other is about “making my life better now.”
I would love any insight on sanctification vs. spiritual formation…I am not as studied as I should be on this for sure.
My last post was horrible. I didn’t edit, and my notes are very disjointed. I want to get back to that “sermon” but I feel I need to sit down and really think about things. Being pregnant with possible h1n1 in the house has me very distracted. I will try to remember not to post disjointed notes again!
Edit to add: Doctor says the fever/cough thing is not a flu virus (at least the tested kind in the nasal swab). Just high fevers and an ear infection, and very annoying horrible cough (dry). No tamiflu here…