Sometimes I get so discouraged. What I thought was true turned out to be false. Our former church was a place where I thought people were glorifying God. I’m sure there are some people there who are true Christians, but the leadership is scary to me. At least two of the pastors are not preaching Christ, the others go along with it. The one who did speak up and worked to change things had been let go. They want to be a spiritual formation/seeker friendly/and whatever the emergent thing is lite (not NOT emergent?). They want what they are.
I feel a bit helpless, and I guess I am. I cannot save anyone myself, that’s God’s work. He chooses whom He chooses. I just hate seeing it happening, the sin of false teaching.
I have another problem, I have a new problem of trust. I cannot feel completely like I can trust preachers. I cannot trust church systems. I want to be able to walk into a church and know they are okay, they are preaching truth. I want to trust. I feel some trust in the newer church (and we’ve been going for a year and 1/2 now). However, I cannot commit to them in heart right now. (I have seen a few things that are problems…not related to doctrine or teaching but on a side note…and it has to do more with safety than anything not teaching/preaching/faith). I want to have a consistent place for my kids to go to worship. I want to be involved.
What has happened to me is a coldness. In our former church, it was all about community. We had small groups, activities, we were busy. We had adult conversation. We socialized. We did get frustrated, but we did enjoy being around the people. In the newer church (to us) we aren’t yet feeling connected to the people. It’s a good sermon, nice to see you, bye. I want some family there if I’m going to stick. We do have friends attending from the former church, but only a few we were close to. I’m not young anymore, and I don’t like starting over. I want long term friends. I’m lonely. Are we supposed to feel lonely in church?
Part of it is our fault. We don’t trust, we have busy lives with our kids. We haven’t completely dug in to this church. We’d just like to be invited over for a drink and cookies, some conversation, some connection. People are friendly, but we aren’t their friends.
Our former church had the group thing down. Small groups were an issue in that the bible study part was missing. I think there is nothing wrong with socializing with your church friends and getting together into groups, but small group studies were how bad teaching was spread further. Just getting together to socialize, well, that probably is actually a good thing. Getting together to study a book that has nothing to do with the gospel but makes you think it does, now that is wrong. We spent years trying to do bible study in these groups and were successful some of the time. The church kept pulling us into this or that book though…manditory for the whole church.
I’m discouraged on several levels I guess. I thought we would have feel more than superficial with friends at our newer church. I am also discouraged looking at the churches around our area. Many are into this seeker friendly/spiritual formation stuff. I guess I kind of feel like I would if I were in Utah. So many places preaching false doctrine. So many “nice” people, but sooooo thirsty for companionship/fellowship and also for the true gospel to be preached. At least I feel the preaching where we are is pretty good. Eventually, we’ll get through the human stuff and make friends. Right?