I have emailed a few people from our former church including pastors. I knew this would happen, but it’s amazing how silent things are. I have received only a few responses in the past several months. Some people knew why we had left, but didn’t understand or agree. We had been in contact, even on facebook. Haven’t heard back. Any email to a former pastor (not the big lead pastor, I know better than to do that) is met with silence except for one…the former pastor who encouraged our letter. Some people who have no idea from our end of things about our leaving have not replied. Even former members we know who have left have not replied. Still, we do have contact with a few who have remained good friends. Some stay behind and really have been supportive. Some understand what we are saying, may not agree with it all, but do get most of it. Others don’t agree at all and remain friends despite the differences. Mostly though, deafening silence. I’ve had one chide me strongly just after the pastor spoke about us (without mentioning our names) but I think she’s not stable anyway. She nit picked me over pretty hard, and it didn’t seem logical at all given the fact that she is one who claimed to have left Pagitt’s church and saw similar trends in my former church. Had to be something else going on with her.
So, I’m not really sad or shocked at all, but there definitely is a sense that though our names were not mentioned from the pulpit, people have been made aware of us in conversations and we are no longer considered friends by these people (or there’s something going on in their lives and they aren’t contacting anyone).